Big girl bed..now dd wont go to sleep! HELP!!!
We moved dd to her big girl room across the hall. She was getting out of her crib (not alot though) and we are expecting another baby in August. My problem is ever since we did this last week she will not stay in bed. I have tried everything to get her to stay in there. She gets up and plays on the stairs while I am downstairs, she plays in my room, and she tries to be quiet so we dont know she is up. She goes in her closet and plays in there. She is not getting to sleep until 10pm or so and she is usually asleep by 8 or 8:30. Oh and naps can be a pita as well. Took me an hour to get her to stay in her bed today. I think she still needs a nap but I am thinking tomorrow trying to let her go without one. Even though I am feeling lousy with this pregnancy I am thinking of giving up that "me" time. She is 2 years 8 months. I think though if I let her skip it all together she will come to me late afternoon and want to take a nap. She also gets up between 2 and 3 in the morning and plays quietly in her room or comes in our room amd messes with the dogs. Again she is quiet but I know she is there. I usually just make her get into bed with us. She has been waking for a long time during the night and calling for me. I always go get her and bring her to bed with me. Now she just gets up and plays. This morning I found her in the dark with a pile of books in hand. What can I do?
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was she sleeping in the crib in your room or her room? I am going through the same thing with Billy right now, today is day 2. He has taken a nap both days but yesterday I had to take his radio away. I wish I had some answers, I know how much it helps you have your toddler nap when you are pg and wiped out. It's even nice to have the time just to clean.
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Trish, she sleeps in her own room but was coming to my room during the night. I am totally ok with that. I just cant get her to settle down to *get* to sleep. I guess she know how easy it is to just get up that she does just that. I am just tired of the nightime battles to get her to sleep. I have resorted to standing outside her bedroom and saying "samantha get back in bed" when she starts to get out. I am so tired of walking the long walk back upstairs when I here her up. What to do?:scratch
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She's not much older than Billy and you aren't much further along than me so I totally understand what you are going through. I really don't think letting her not nap is the answer because she will be even more tired. Billy is totally cranky if he is not getting enough sleep. With him getting out of the crib so much he was sleeping about 8 hours a night and 1-1 1/2 hours a day and it just was not enough. He is still in my room and I have a doorknob cover on the door because I know he can open the door if he wants and I worry about him falling down the stairs. Hopefully my repetition in putting him back in bed every 10 minutes will get through. I so know what you mean about the stairs.
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I was looking into moving my 15 month old son into his own room because I have a 4 month old who will need the crib soon and am debating what type of bed to get him. I was looking to get him a twin because it will give him more room to stretch and move when he is sleeping, but everyone I speak to say they got the toddler bed first.
So far, the research i've done has given me some good tips to keep in mind and I wanted to share them with everyone:
1. Putting a removable gate on the bedroom door could help keep the young one in his/her room. They can see and hear u without u closing the door all the time
2. I myself had to put a gate on my stairs because giovanni wants to climb up and down them. This allowed him to run around freely w/o me worrying about him falling
3 Try to avoid lamps in the rooms. They like to pull them down
4 Never put a bed against the wall w/o a rail. I'v heard many stories about kids falling between the wall and bed and not being able to get up.
5. Having a bedtime routing may help. A bath first, a story,
6. Invest in a night light that can be turned hi/lo, not a lamp. Just in case they are scared and you dont want a full light or a dark night light.
I'm not sure what I am about to encounter, but will keep u posted on my new adventure.
Do u think he's to young? I did not want to buy another crib.
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Eddie learned how to climb out of his crib last week. After a week of being up half the night with him getting out of the bed, (plus dd is just 7 weeks old), I wimped out and got a crib tent. Now he's back to happily sleeping 11 hour stretches. We'll tackle the transition when my daughter is sleeping longer nights.
Just wanted to wish you good luck, hope the adjustment period is quick!
Debbie
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Originally posted by Eddie's Mom
Eddie learned how to climb out of his crib last week. After a week of being up half the night with him getting out of the bed, (plus dd is just 7 weeks old), I wimped out and got a crib tent. Now he's back to happily sleeping 11 hour stretches. AHHHHHHH, I gave up tonight after the 100th time putting her back in her big girl bed. I made her go to her other room in her crib. She made a huge fuss but I told her I would sit with her. She was fine with that. I stayed about 20 minutes and got up and told her I would be back in a minute. By the time I got downstairs she was out of her crib. I am loosing my mind. She has not had a nap today either. I tried that thinking she would be so tired she would drift off to sleep. I think she is overtired now. Dh is sitting with her now and its 9pm here. I just cant keep going upstairs. I am pregnant and not feeling well. I just dont know what to do.
I am seriously thinking about this crib tent. How does it work and did your ds mind it at all?:(
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Ugh, you totally have my sympathy. The crib tent is like a mesh netting dome tent that fits on top of the crib. It zips open/closed along the whole length of the front, quickly and easily. I was afraid that he'd be able to dismantle it, but it is attached all the way round the tent with velcro, by straps between each crib railing. I'm really happy with it, though I must say that I never would have seen myself using one. It's just the poorest timing for him to be climbing out of the crib, as it is in your case, too!
There are 2 major brands out there, Cozy Crib Tent and Tots in Mind. We got the Tots in Mind at Babies 'R Us for $59.95. Here is a link to it...
I plan on using ours until dd is sleeping better - I'll be rested and better able to teach DS that his new big bed is for sleeping now. I have kept his junior bed in his room, however, so he can get used to it. It' a comfort to me that he's been sitting, reading his books on it. We'll get there...and so will you! Good luck!
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Sorry, I forgot to add that dh didn't have a problem at all...we all need some sleep! It's only a temporary solution, and it doesn't give you the "cage" impression at all...more like a tent!
If I had said to him months ago that we might need one he probably would have poo-poo'd the idea, but there's nothing like being in the position of getting no sleep!
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Well today I changed my mind about the crib tent thing. My dd is just over 2 1/2 and I feel like since I moved her already and she can get out of the crib if I put her back I just decided I would stick it out until she gets the hint she has to stay in bed. We have a baby gate up in her doorway. Its one of those that is hands free and you step on a peddle and puch the door open. Anyway we had put it in the doorway before we ever moved her in there to keep the dogs out of her freshly done room. I wanted the door open so I could admire it. :LOL So today when she took her nap I explained to her that from now on she has to stay in the bed. She can have a few books to look through ( I got her a book light for nights) but she has to stay in bed. I told her if she gets out I will have to close the gate. I have tried this already but I always wimped out and opened it after about 5 minutes of screaming. I dont ever leave her there I stay right at the gate or right beside the door. This time I said thats it you get out of bed I close the gate. So of course she got out of bed and upstairs I went and closed the gate. She was jumping on the bed on her knees yelling to open the gate but I kept it shut and sat on the stairs. She cried for just a few minutes and went to sleep. So tonight I will try that again and see how it works. I opened the gate after she went to sleep because I dont like locking her in her room. I am paranoid of fires or something happening to me and she being stuck in there. I'll let you know how it goes.
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That's cool, Sandy...it sounds like you're on your way to helpng her make the transition. Good job!
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Well right now my plan is not working! Why does this have to be so hard? I feel terrible about this whole thing. So far with the gate closed she emptied out her baskets and stood on top and jumped over. Then I put her back to bed and she just came over it on her own. I am so frustrated I closed the door. I am just at my wits end. She is very tired. I can see that. Dh said to go lay down with her. Problem is I dont want to make that a habit. Dh goes to work at 9:30 pm and comes home at 7:30 am, sleeps all day until 2pm when he gets up and goes to direct traffic (he's a police officer) comes home at 7:30pm eats dinner and relaxes for a while before going back to work. I dont want to spend these two hours we have together yelling get back to bed and taking her back upstairs. Dh spends all day with her on his 3 off days so I know its not just that she wants to be with him. I mean really she would be content with just me. She wants me all the time. Anyway I am blabbering here. I need to go check and see what the situation is now. She has quieted down so hopefully she has fallen asleep.
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Just wanted to send a hug your way, Sandy. This must be one of the hardest parts of the toddler phase!
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Hi Debbie! Thanks for the comfort.:LOL Tonight wasnt that bad really. We went to bed and I read to her for 30 minutes and gave hugs and kisses and told her I was going to close the door and she said "no leave it open" and I told her I would come back as soon as she went to sleep and open the door just like when she took a nap earlier that day. She seemed fine with it and said goodnight. She did cry for me a couple of times but that was to put things away.:LOL Like her shoes she wanted in the closet. Anyway she is fast asleep now with the door open as promised. Thanksa again and I hoep you are getting some sleep there too.
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was she sleeping in the crib in your room or her room? I am going through the same thing with Billy right now, today is day 2. He has taken a nap both days but yesterday I had to take his radio away. I wish I had some answers, I know how much it helps you have your toddler nap when you are pg and wiped out. It's even nice to have the time just to clean.
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Trish, she sleeps in her own room but was coming to my room during the night. I am totally ok with that. I just cant get her to settle down to *get* to sleep. I guess she know how easy it is to just get up that she does just that. I am just tired of the nightime battles to get her to sleep. I have resorted to standing outside her bedroom and saying "samantha get back in bed" when she starts to get out. I am so tired of walking the long walk back upstairs when I here her up. What to do?:scratch
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She's not much older than Billy and you aren't much further along than me so I totally understand what you are going through. I really don't think letting her not nap is the answer because she will be even more tired. Billy is totally cranky if he is not getting enough sleep. With him getting out of the crib so much he was sleeping about 8 hours a night and 1-1 1/2 hours a day and it just was not enough. He is still in my room and I have a doorknob cover on the door because I know he can open the door if he wants and I worry about him falling down the stairs. Hopefully my repetition in putting him back in bed every 10 minutes will get through. I so know what you mean about the stairs.
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I was looking into moving my 15 month old son into his own room because I have a 4 month old who will need the crib soon and am debating what type of bed to get him. I was looking to get him a twin because it will give him more room to stretch and move when he is sleeping, but everyone I speak to say they got the toddler bed first.
So far, the research i've done has given me some good tips to keep in mind and I wanted to share them with everyone:
1. Putting a removable gate on the bedroom door could help keep the young one in his/her room. They can see and hear u without u closing the door all the time
2. I myself had to put a gate on my stairs because giovanni wants to climb up and down them. This allowed him to run around freely w/o me worrying about him falling
3 Try to avoid lamps in the rooms. They like to pull them down
4 Never put a bed against the wall w/o a rail. I'v heard many stories about kids falling between the wall and bed and not being able to get up.
5. Having a bedtime routing may help. A bath first, a story,
6. Invest in a night light that can be turned hi/lo, not a lamp. Just in case they are scared and you dont want a full light or a dark night light.
I'm not sure what I am about to encounter, but will keep u posted on my new adventure.
Do u think he's to young? I did not want to buy another crib.
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Eddie learned how to climb out of his crib last week. After a week of being up half the night with him getting out of the bed, (plus dd is just 7 weeks old), I wimped out and got a crib tent. Now he's back to happily sleeping 11 hour stretches. We'll tackle the transition when my daughter is sleeping longer nights.
Just wanted to wish you good luck, hope the adjustment period is quick!
Debbie
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Originally posted by Eddie's Mom
Eddie learned how to climb out of his crib last week. After a week of being up half the night with him getting out of the bed, (plus dd is just 7 weeks old), I wimped out and got a crib tent. Now he's back to happily sleeping 11 hour stretches. AHHHHHHH, I gave up tonight after the 100th time putting her back in her big girl bed. I made her go to her other room in her crib. She made a huge fuss but I told her I would sit with her. She was fine with that. I stayed about 20 minutes and got up and told her I would be back in a minute. By the time I got downstairs she was out of her crib. I am loosing my mind. She has not had a nap today either. I tried that thinking she would be so tired she would drift off to sleep. I think she is overtired now. Dh is sitting with her now and its 9pm here. I just cant keep going upstairs. I am pregnant and not feeling well. I just dont know what to do.
I am seriously thinking about this crib tent. How does it work and did your ds mind it at all?:(
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Ugh, you totally have my sympathy. The crib tent is like a mesh netting dome tent that fits on top of the crib. It zips open/closed along the whole length of the front, quickly and easily. I was afraid that he'd be able to dismantle it, but it is attached all the way round the tent with velcro, by straps between each crib railing. I'm really happy with it, though I must say that I never would have seen myself using one. It's just the poorest timing for him to be climbing out of the crib, as it is in your case, too!
There are 2 major brands out there, Cozy Crib Tent and Tots in Mind. We got the Tots in Mind at Babies 'R Us for $59.95. Here is a link to it...
I plan on using ours until dd is sleeping better - I'll be rested and better able to teach DS that his new big bed is for sleeping now. I have kept his junior bed in his room, however, so he can get used to it. It' a comfort to me that he's been sitting, reading his books on it. We'll get there...and so will you! Good luck!
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Sorry, I forgot to add that dh didn't have a problem at all...we all need some sleep! It's only a temporary solution, and it doesn't give you the "cage" impression at all...more like a tent!
If I had said to him months ago that we might need one he probably would have poo-poo'd the idea, but there's nothing like being in the position of getting no sleep!
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Well today I changed my mind about the crib tent thing. My dd is just over 2 1/2 and I feel like since I moved her already and she can get out of the crib if I put her back I just decided I would stick it out until she gets the hint she has to stay in bed. We have a baby gate up in her doorway. Its one of those that is hands free and you step on a peddle and puch the door open. Anyway we had put it in the doorway before we ever moved her in there to keep the dogs out of her freshly done room. I wanted the door open so I could admire it. :LOL So today when she took her nap I explained to her that from now on she has to stay in the bed. She can have a few books to look through ( I got her a book light for nights) but she has to stay in bed. I told her if she gets out I will have to close the gate. I have tried this already but I always wimped out and opened it after about 5 minutes of screaming. I dont ever leave her there I stay right at the gate or right beside the door. This time I said thats it you get out of bed I close the gate. So of course she got out of bed and upstairs I went and closed the gate. She was jumping on the bed on her knees yelling to open the gate but I kept it shut and sat on the stairs. She cried for just a few minutes and went to sleep. So tonight I will try that again and see how it works. I opened the gate after she went to sleep because I dont like locking her in her room. I am paranoid of fires or something happening to me and she being stuck in there. I'll let you know how it goes.
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That's cool, Sandy...it sounds like you're on your way to helpng her make the transition. Good job!
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Well right now my plan is not working! Why does this have to be so hard? I feel terrible about this whole thing. So far with the gate closed she emptied out her baskets and stood on top and jumped over. Then I put her back to bed and she just came over it on her own. I am so frustrated I closed the door. I am just at my wits end. She is very tired. I can see that. Dh said to go lay down with her. Problem is I dont want to make that a habit. Dh goes to work at 9:30 pm and comes home at 7:30 am, sleeps all day until 2pm when he gets up and goes to direct traffic (he's a police officer) comes home at 7:30pm eats dinner and relaxes for a while before going back to work. I dont want to spend these two hours we have together yelling get back to bed and taking her back upstairs. Dh spends all day with her on his 3 off days so I know its not just that she wants to be with him. I mean really she would be content with just me. She wants me all the time. Anyway I am blabbering here. I need to go check and see what the situation is now. She has quieted down so hopefully she has fallen asleep.
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Just wanted to send a hug your way, Sandy. This must be one of the hardest parts of the toddler phase!
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Hi Debbie! Thanks for the comfort.:LOL Tonight wasnt that bad really. We went to bed and I read to her for 30 minutes and gave hugs and kisses and told her I was going to close the door and she said "no leave it open" and I told her I would come back as soon as she went to sleep and open the door just like when she took a nap earlier that day. She seemed fine with it and said goodnight. She did cry for me a couple of times but that was to put things away.:LOL Like her shoes she wanted in the closet. Anyway she is fast asleep now with the door open as promised. Thanksa again and I hoep you are getting some sleep there too.
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