feeling like a bad mommy!
Hi! I just need to share.... DH and I took my 2.5 yo DS to my MIL's church tonight for a singing program. I have not ever been to this church but my MIL has taken my son a couple of times and she says he is really good for her. Well, he has had a cough and cold and no appetite, but he had a good nap today and we though we would try to take him to the program. I planned ahead and brought books, snacks, water, etc. Well, we got there early to get a good seat and exhausted the book stash right away. Then he was busy and whiney and naughty! And that was before the show even started.
So, I thought, maybe he will enjoy it once the singing started. Well, he did, for about 2 minutes, then it was crabby time again. So, I took him to the "cryroom" in the back- I hate the name of that room but that's another thread altogether! Anyway, he played for a few minutes, then was crying for Daddy so we all ended up leaving!
I am just bummed because I really wanted to see the show! I am feeling like a bad mommy for 2 reasons- either I was bad to take a sick kid to a show and expect him to behave like his usually good toddler self, or I have raised him with no manners and no respect for his parents and others in public!!! Anyway, I mainly just wanted to vent but also to know I am not the only one that feels like this sometimes! :blah
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You are not a bad mommy!
First of all, you assessed the situation and after a nap thought he felt well enough. YOu cant be blamed if you assessment ws slightly off!
Second of all, a 2 year old is learning behavior and manners but is too young to be expected to be consistent especially when he is not feeling well.
It sounds to me like you have a very well behaved 2 year old who had a bad day.
Every bad day isnt a symptom of a bigger problem.
THat said I am sorry you missed the program.
Joline
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Aw, we all have bad days when we aren't feeling good. And I know how you feel about having to miss things. We took DD to her dcp last Wednesday even though I had no class or homework (Reading Day before finals) so DH and I could actually go see a movie. She was fine when we dropped her off, but by the time we were sitting there and the previews were ending, the sitter called because she had a fever of 102.something and had just thrown up her lunch.
And she was fine by the next morning.
Sometimes it's just inconvenient to be a parent. But it's okay to think so, because you do have your priorities straight. When it came down to it, you left when it was clear it wasn't working. A bad mommy would have first of all dumped him in the nursery and second of all ignored bad behavior signals that he didn't feel well to try to stick out the show.
You're just a good mommy who's frustrated!
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I think you did exactly the right thing - but I really disagree with your conclusions! It's not that black & white. You're not a "bad mommy" for trying something that didn't turn out! Having to bag it & go home sometimes is part of the deal. You can't predict everything perfectly all the time, and you've got to try anyway.
And there's no way your son was being rude - he's a toddler! It just wasn't his day to be there. Little kids can't reason sufficiently to be "disrespectful", that's expecting way too much.
You are the one who did an excellent job of modeling respect by taking him out of a situation in which he couldn't behave correctly. I think that's the best you can do.
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Hey, thanks mamas, for the support!! Deep down, I know I am a good mommy, but it was just a day that I wasn't feeling like one! Well, I took him to the doctor today because his cough was still nasty, and wouldn't you know it... he has an ear infection!! That would explain alot!! So, we went home and cuddled alot and he was a good boy and wanted to watch Clifford and rock-a-bye with his mommy. And then he says, "I love you, mama!" and it makes it all worth it!! :love
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So, I thought, maybe he will enjoy it once the singing started. Well, he did, for about 2 minutes, then it was crabby time again. So, I took him to the "cryroom" in the back- I hate the name of that room but that's another thread altogether! Anyway, he played for a few minutes, then was crying for Daddy so we all ended up leaving!
I am just bummed because I really wanted to see the show! I am feeling like a bad mommy for 2 reasons- either I was bad to take a sick kid to a show and expect him to behave like his usually good toddler self, or I have raised him with no manners and no respect for his parents and others in public!!! Anyway, I mainly just wanted to vent but also to know I am not the only one that feels like this sometimes! :blah
^_^:
You are not a bad mommy!
First of all, you assessed the situation and after a nap thought he felt well enough. YOu cant be blamed if you assessment ws slightly off!
Second of all, a 2 year old is learning behavior and manners but is too young to be expected to be consistent especially when he is not feeling well.
It sounds to me like you have a very well behaved 2 year old who had a bad day.
Every bad day isnt a symptom of a bigger problem.
THat said I am sorry you missed the program.
Joline
^_^:
Aw, we all have bad days when we aren't feeling good. And I know how you feel about having to miss things. We took DD to her dcp last Wednesday even though I had no class or homework (Reading Day before finals) so DH and I could actually go see a movie. She was fine when we dropped her off, but by the time we were sitting there and the previews were ending, the sitter called because she had a fever of 102.something and had just thrown up her lunch.
And she was fine by the next morning.
Sometimes it's just inconvenient to be a parent. But it's okay to think so, because you do have your priorities straight. When it came down to it, you left when it was clear it wasn't working. A bad mommy would have first of all dumped him in the nursery and second of all ignored bad behavior signals that he didn't feel well to try to stick out the show.
You're just a good mommy who's frustrated!
^_^:
I think you did exactly the right thing - but I really disagree with your conclusions! It's not that black & white. You're not a "bad mommy" for trying something that didn't turn out! Having to bag it & go home sometimes is part of the deal. You can't predict everything perfectly all the time, and you've got to try anyway.
And there's no way your son was being rude - he's a toddler! It just wasn't his day to be there. Little kids can't reason sufficiently to be "disrespectful", that's expecting way too much.
You are the one who did an excellent job of modeling respect by taking him out of a situation in which he couldn't behave correctly. I think that's the best you can do.
^_^:
Hey, thanks mamas, for the support!! Deep down, I know I am a good mommy, but it was just a day that I wasn't feeling like one! Well, I took him to the doctor today because his cough was still nasty, and wouldn't you know it... he has an ear infection!! That would explain alot!! So, we went home and cuddled alot and he was a good boy and wanted to watch Clifford and rock-a-bye with his mommy. And then he says, "I love you, mama!" and it makes it all worth it!! :love
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