It's not -actually- my business...
...but I was steamed at a woman in Einstein Bros. Bagels today.
Let me say this, first. I'm expecting my first, and I do not plan to be completely AP. I don't think that there's any merit to CIO when they're very small, but I also don't plan to hold my child all the time. There's nothing wrong with DOING so, but I don't plan to.
So this woman. She was there with her mother and her twins, who appeared to be about 3 months old, or so. The twins were in their carseats on the floor next to their table. The girl's awake, the boy's sound asleep. The girl starts to cry. The mother then decides to go over to the hot water to get water to make a bottle for her. The baby is obviously in distress at this point. The mother is basically ignoring her, except for the occasional "SHHHH!" while she makes the bottle. Her mother gets up and walks away (no idea why). She gets up to add cold water to the bottle. The grandmother, at this point, is away from the table, so the babies are on the floor by themselves. (Not a big deal, IMNSHO, as it's not all that big.)
Baby is still screaming, and wiggling. She was apparently not strapped in. When the mother gets back, the baby has managed to wiggle herself 75% or so of the way out of the seat onto the floor. The mother scoots the baby back into the seat, SCOLDING HER for being loose, telling her that she's "just earned yourself being strapped in" and "you should be ashamed of yourself!" Buckles her in, and PUTS HER SEAT BACK ON THE FLOOR. Then she walks away again. The grandmother comes back and gathers their food and drinks off of the table, sets them on the baby (because she wasn't going to have a free hand otherwise), and also starts scolding her because "you're going to wake up your brother!"
As soon as Grandma started walking with her, she stopped crying.
I just wanted to shake this woman and say "PICK UP YOUR CHILD!"
:angry
Why have kids? Seriously.
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Yeah, when I was expecting my first is when I started REALLY noticing all the parenting things people did that bugged me. Just wait until your baby is actually here; if you are nursing your breasts will be leaking when you hear those cries and you may have to just wallk away if it bothers you. At least, if you are anything like me. :LOL
But ya know what? It's probably pretty tough having twins, too. It is sad that she didn't pick her up sooner, but maybe she felt like she couldn't do that and make the bottle at the same time? Who knows? Give her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she was just having a really, really bad day.
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earn punishment ?? :jaw
Bad day or not still
and the gma put the food and drinks ON the baby did I read that right?
what if it fell and burned her if it was hot?
or the drinks fell in her face?
and what three mo old understands 'don't wake up your brother?"
I am sure twins are hard
I had two 15 mos apart and that was hard enough I could not imagine but still I would have been like you and dropped my jaw..
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Arrrgggg!
I can not watch scenes like this anymore.
Before i was a mommy i just looked at these incedents with distain- but now it's all i can do to not go over to the child and coo to them -and sometimes i do......
I think that alot of parents feel like they are being judged by their childs actions in public and therefore implement the "tough love" approach as if that is the cure for a sensitive little person- toughen them up early.
Makes me sad
:(
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:bang
Some people should stick to having a cat instead.
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Wow, I've got twins who have an older sister. I don't know if I could have standed to listen to my baby cry like that. Picking up my baby always seemed to calm him down. BUT, please remember, she's probably sooooo sleep deprived and tired she just can't think straight. I know until the boys got onto a regularish schedule, going out was a complete nightmare. One would sleep, the other freaking out, the toddler having a mini meltdown. Needless to say, there were days when my mind was close to gone. I hope she was just having a bad day and that this isn't her usual demenor with her children. At 3.5 months that poor baby doesn't deserve 'punishment' and a harsh talking to. The baby deserves loving arms, and the mom deserves a break too. She needs some loving arms as well.
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Let me say this, first. I'm expecting my first, and I do not plan to be completely AP. I don't think that there's any merit to CIO when they're very small, but I also don't plan to hold my child all the time. There's nothing wrong with DOING so, but I don't plan to.
So this woman. She was there with her mother and her twins, who appeared to be about 3 months old, or so. The twins were in their carseats on the floor next to their table. The girl's awake, the boy's sound asleep. The girl starts to cry. The mother then decides to go over to the hot water to get water to make a bottle for her. The baby is obviously in distress at this point. The mother is basically ignoring her, except for the occasional "SHHHH!" while she makes the bottle. Her mother gets up and walks away (no idea why). She gets up to add cold water to the bottle. The grandmother, at this point, is away from the table, so the babies are on the floor by themselves. (Not a big deal, IMNSHO, as it's not all that big.)
Baby is still screaming, and wiggling. She was apparently not strapped in. When the mother gets back, the baby has managed to wiggle herself 75% or so of the way out of the seat onto the floor. The mother scoots the baby back into the seat, SCOLDING HER for being loose, telling her that she's "just earned yourself being strapped in" and "you should be ashamed of yourself!" Buckles her in, and PUTS HER SEAT BACK ON THE FLOOR. Then she walks away again. The grandmother comes back and gathers their food and drinks off of the table, sets them on the baby (because she wasn't going to have a free hand otherwise), and also starts scolding her because "you're going to wake up your brother!"
As soon as Grandma started walking with her, she stopped crying.
I just wanted to shake this woman and say "PICK UP YOUR CHILD!"
:angry
Why have kids? Seriously.
^_^:
Yeah, when I was expecting my first is when I started REALLY noticing all the parenting things people did that bugged me. Just wait until your baby is actually here; if you are nursing your breasts will be leaking when you hear those cries and you may have to just wallk away if it bothers you. At least, if you are anything like me. :LOL
But ya know what? It's probably pretty tough having twins, too. It is sad that she didn't pick her up sooner, but maybe she felt like she couldn't do that and make the bottle at the same time? Who knows? Give her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she was just having a really, really bad day.
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earn punishment ?? :jaw
Bad day or not still
and the gma put the food and drinks ON the baby did I read that right?
what if it fell and burned her if it was hot?
or the drinks fell in her face?
and what three mo old understands 'don't wake up your brother?"
I am sure twins are hard
I had two 15 mos apart and that was hard enough I could not imagine but still I would have been like you and dropped my jaw..
^_^:
Arrrgggg!
I can not watch scenes like this anymore.
Before i was a mommy i just looked at these incedents with distain- but now it's all i can do to not go over to the child and coo to them -and sometimes i do......
I think that alot of parents feel like they are being judged by their childs actions in public and therefore implement the "tough love" approach as if that is the cure for a sensitive little person- toughen them up early.
Makes me sad
:(
^_^:
:bang
Some people should stick to having a cat instead.
^_^:
Wow, I've got twins who have an older sister. I don't know if I could have standed to listen to my baby cry like that. Picking up my baby always seemed to calm him down. BUT, please remember, she's probably sooooo sleep deprived and tired she just can't think straight. I know until the boys got onto a regularish schedule, going out was a complete nightmare. One would sleep, the other freaking out, the toddler having a mini meltdown. Needless to say, there were days when my mind was close to gone. I hope she was just having a bad day and that this isn't her usual demenor with her children. At 3.5 months that poor baby doesn't deserve 'punishment' and a harsh talking to. The baby deserves loving arms, and the mom deserves a break too. She needs some loving arms as well.
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