My friend had a baby & I'm crying...
A long time, childhood friend had a healthy baby girl this morning weighing 7 lbs 1 oz. She went completely natural and I am so proud of her so why I am upset! Everytime I think about it, I start to tear up. I know it is b/c she had the birth that I always wanted and I am saddened that I missed out on that by delivering my twins premature at 30 weeks via emergency C-section. I am so jealous of people who give birth to a full term baby naturally with no drugs...Anyone else do this too?
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I completely understand. My sister is pregnant right now and I"m trying to work through some "issues." :o I think the feelings are totally normal. If you figure out a good way to get over them- please let me know! :lol
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i know what you mean. a couple of good friends of mine had homebirths and completely uncomplicated pregnancies. i couldn't help but feel incredibly jealous.
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Yep, I know how you feel. C/S here, too.
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Me too. Hug
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I would imagine everyone here can understand how you feel. I know I can, too. I visited my BF in the hospital about 18 hours after the birth of her 2nd child (scheduled c-section because her OB/hospital wouldn't VBAC). She was 7 pounds 4 ounces. I held her and realized that she was way more than twice the size of my babies, yet she felt so tiny. Then I realized that she was the newest baby I'd ever held for more than 5 seconds, and it was all I could do not to cry.
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I get upset, too, even when I am happy for my friend. I don't remember my daughter's birth at all, so I cry when I read good birth stories (or any that I think are better than mine).
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I'm right there with you. I'm still trying to deal with my c/s, also. And, actually, it's more the fact that I'll likely never have a vaginal birth. I do believe that my c/s was necessary, but that doesn't erase the jealousy I have of people that get to have natural births.
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I get really jealous.. I'd like to have a sibling for my little guy but it would be too high-risk if I ever got pregnant again, and I'm looking into adoption but I don't think it will be affordable for us, so I get really jealous of people who can have more kids..
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My child's two but I'm still upset that I never got to care for or see her umbilical cord come off. She was in the NICU for 5 weeks. Why would the lack of holding some little shriveled and kind of gross thing bother me so much? I guess emotions are not too rational.
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I had a c/s with my first son and I was considered high risk with my 2nd again. I was really determined to have a vbac this time around. I think my pregnancies will always be high risk and it makes me really upset to hear about people who have very normal pregnancies. I've had friends tell my other friends that I shouldn't be having kids or how jeleous they are that a that last two times i've been pregnant, they wish they could've been pregnant too. I tell them, "so get pregnant, no one is stopping you" but don't sit there and blame me and act like my pregnacies are all wonderful, b/c it hasn't been the ideal case for you, you know? I am happy that I have two healthy boys right now and I do want to keep trying for that girl, but I have no delutions that any future pregnancies will be "easy". No matter how I wish they might be!
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I absolutely feel this way. Honestly, I felt this way before I had my preemie. When I had my 5th child, I had a c/s and just four days later my mom's neighbor had a homebirth. I felt so cheated that she was able to hold her little girl right away and didn't have to deal with all of the crap I did. :( And to add on a preemie experience, it was even worse.
(((hugs))) to you.
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I completely understand. My sister is pregnant right now and I"m trying to work through some "issues." :o I think the feelings are totally normal. If you figure out a good way to get over them- please let me know! :lol
^_^:
i know what you mean. a couple of good friends of mine had homebirths and completely uncomplicated pregnancies. i couldn't help but feel incredibly jealous.
^_^:
Yep, I know how you feel. C/S here, too.
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Me too. Hug
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I would imagine everyone here can understand how you feel. I know I can, too. I visited my BF in the hospital about 18 hours after the birth of her 2nd child (scheduled c-section because her OB/hospital wouldn't VBAC). She was 7 pounds 4 ounces. I held her and realized that she was way more than twice the size of my babies, yet she felt so tiny. Then I realized that she was the newest baby I'd ever held for more than 5 seconds, and it was all I could do not to cry.
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I get upset, too, even when I am happy for my friend. I don't remember my daughter's birth at all, so I cry when I read good birth stories (or any that I think are better than mine).
^_^:
I'm right there with you. I'm still trying to deal with my c/s, also. And, actually, it's more the fact that I'll likely never have a vaginal birth. I do believe that my c/s was necessary, but that doesn't erase the jealousy I have of people that get to have natural births.
:grouphug
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I get really jealous.. I'd like to have a sibling for my little guy but it would be too high-risk if I ever got pregnant again, and I'm looking into adoption but I don't think it will be affordable for us, so I get really jealous of people who can have more kids..
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My child's two but I'm still upset that I never got to care for or see her umbilical cord come off. She was in the NICU for 5 weeks. Why would the lack of holding some little shriveled and kind of gross thing bother me so much? I guess emotions are not too rational.
^_^:
I had a c/s with my first son and I was considered high risk with my 2nd again. I was really determined to have a vbac this time around. I think my pregnancies will always be high risk and it makes me really upset to hear about people who have very normal pregnancies. I've had friends tell my other friends that I shouldn't be having kids or how jeleous they are that a that last two times i've been pregnant, they wish they could've been pregnant too. I tell them, "so get pregnant, no one is stopping you" but don't sit there and blame me and act like my pregnacies are all wonderful, b/c it hasn't been the ideal case for you, you know? I am happy that I have two healthy boys right now and I do want to keep trying for that girl, but I have no delutions that any future pregnancies will be "easy". No matter how I wish they might be!
^_^:
I absolutely feel this way. Honestly, I felt this way before I had my preemie. When I had my 5th child, I had a c/s and just four days later my mom's neighbor had a homebirth. I felt so cheated that she was able to hold her little girl right away and didn't have to deal with all of the crap I did. :( And to add on a preemie experience, it was even worse.
(((hugs))) to you.
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